Okay, so here you are not facing it. You know what I’m talking about. That situation involving that person that you just do not want to deal with or maybe it’s your child and you just don’t know if you can speak the words. It’s Memorial Day weekend after all. (Yes, I now it just passed and so did the last holiday weekend you put this conversation off for.)
You’ve tried and it’s just not getting any easier. You thought maybe if you just gave it or them some time, you know to think, to cool down, to get older and learn it for themselves, to get better at their job or have time to deal with whatever’s going on in their personal life or what’s not going on in their personal life, etcetera, etcetera, etcetera…
And that’s just why this difficult conversation got even more difficult.
Excuses.
Oh, they seem real. “It’s just not the right time.” “They won’t listen anyway.” “Nothing’s really going to change.” “I know what they’ll say so why bother?” Or maybe you are sitting somewhere holding your head whining, “Why Me???” Well, I’m just going to have to say the same thing to you that some smart ass said to me when I tried that. Why not you?
It came to you, because it is meant to grow you. So, let’s get on with it. Yes, I am taking the Caribbean parent’s approach to learning to swim, at least this is what many of my friends of Caribbean descent tell me. I’m pushing you in. No wading gently into the shallow waters and learning how to slowly tread. No! This needs to happen now! So, let’s go!
Set the date and the time.Write out what you are going to say. Include lots of pauses for Listening.
Practice it.
Practice it again.
Breathe, deep belly breaths, three or more.
Jump In!
Let me know how it goes.
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