The Blessings In The Lessons

The Blessings In The Lessons

Summing up the Summit   In 1975, I was 17 years old and living with my parents and my older sister in the Bronx. I rode the city bus to and from school and one day, when I was about a mile away from home, I noticed that the bus driver did not open the doors when...
This Is Who I Am

This Is Who I Am

I hope you are here for it. The On The Matter of Race Summit. The time has come!   “You talk a lot about race. Why don’t you talk more about regular conflicts?” “You need to give this a rest.” These are some comments I’ve gotten recently in response to my...
Torn On the Fourth of July

Torn On the Fourth of July

There Is No Coincidence to This   I am having a hard time organizing my thoughts for this one ya’ll and unfortunately, that is a sign of what I am concerned about. The truth is, I’ve never been torn on the fourth of July. It has always been my sister’s birthday...
Delivering a Clear, Honest Message

Delivering a Clear, Honest Message

Even when you don’t want to.   In observing Juneteenth here in the USA, I reflected on a few things that led me to think about the way most of us communicate. If we can prolong a difficult message, we will, especially if it means admitting our own fault. You all...
Time For Our Annual Soul Search On Conflict

Time For Our Annual Soul Search On Conflict

Buffalo, Texas, Philadelphia, Tennessee, this is all about the fact that from the smallest disagreement to the largest most difficult conversation, we are HORRIBLE at engaging in, managing and resolving conflicts. It’s back to the basics folks. I have to take you...
This Is No Joking Matter

This Is No Joking Matter

Five ways for leaders to create emotional safety   We’ve all experienced joking in the workplace. We’ve enjoyed the good use of humor when it is something that everyone is in on and is not at anyone’s expense. We’ve also been in a room during the uncomfortable or...