How to Disagree Without Being Disagreeable

How to Disagree Without Being Disagreeable

It’s not easy, but you can do it.   Here’s a dangerous phrase, “Let’s just agree to disagree.” I can feel you disagreeing with me already about this. But stay with me. Why is it dangerous? Because most of us don’t know how to disagree. We are...
Are You Coachable When It Comes To Conflict?

Are You Coachable When It Comes To Conflict?

I spent some time watching a scene play out in a company I was about to start consulting for. One person was clearly agitated and complaining way too loudly about a co-worker to another colleague. The colleague was trying to explain their perception of what had taken...
The Power of The Pause

The Power of The Pause

Why you need to try it now.   “If I had just taken the time to think before I spoke.” How many times have you said that to yourself? Maybe it was after saying something regretful or after not knowing what to say until 20 minutes after the person ended the...
The Power of Silence

The Power of Silence

Shhhh… you can make this work for you.   I have been working with two powerful techniques lately and I have to say ya’ll, they have been working for me!!! I am a talker. Growing up, I received lots of feedback about that in all forms, comments, criticism,...
Are You Becoming a Workplace Bully?

Are You Becoming a Workplace Bully?

3 commonly overlooked signs and what you can do about them.   Unfortunately, the times we are living in have made for some really unhappy, hurting, mean people. Yes, people are commenting more and more about the anger that they or others are experiencing right...
It’s About Access

It’s About Access

You know I have to say something. The Supreme Court’s recent decision on Affirmative action can’t go unanswered by The Conflict Closer. It’s about access and righting historical wrongs and harm. If you don’t know how many centuries of historical harm then you need to...