When Resistance Isn’t the Problem

When Resistance Isn’t the Problem

Time to Find Out What’s Really Going On   One of the most common complaints I hear is that people just don’t want to open up to new ideas and new ways of doing things. Leaders often label it as stubbornness, negativity, or a lack of buy-in. Teams/people get...
It’s the High Conflict Season

It’s the High Conflict Season

The 12 Days of Conflict 2025 Lawd, y’all, do we need this now! It’s that time of year! We are all dealing with so many mixed emotions right now, and conflicts and conversations are heating up. This is why I take this time to share some really useful tools and...
I Hear You Calling

I Hear You Calling

But I don’t like what you’re saying.   They used to call it “calling someone on the carpet.” Today, they call you on the carpet to roll you up in it and throw you away. That’s a bit of an exaggeration, but is there a difference between holding people accountable...
How To Have Healing Conversations

How To Have Healing Conversations

Are We Still Arguing About This??   Too many of us are withdrawing from the conversation. We are tired, discouraged, disgusted, scared, angry, and alarmed by the state of some of our relationships. But now is the time to start healing conversations. We must not...
How To Really Say NO and Keep Saying It

How To Really Say NO and Keep Saying It

During my childhood, I was a ridiculous fan of musicals. I still love them. I used to watch all kinds of them over and over again whenever they were on. My sister and I learned all the words to almost every song. One of my favorite musicals was Oklahoma. The songs are...
Thou Doth Protest Too Much

Thou Doth Protest Too Much

What to do when you are the one causing conflict.   There is a lot of finger-pointing happening. Everyone else is responsible for the conflicts in our lives, not us. The reality is, if you really want to do something about conflict, you only need one thing, a...