THE BLOG

Holding a Grudge Is Getting In the Way of Lasting Peace
Remember that conflict you were involved in and got really hurt, disappointed, angry, betrayed, fill in the blank? Of course you remember. You’ve never really let it go. How do I know? Because it keeps showing up. Not in the actual person, but in every reminder hidden...

The Structure of Freedom
I am hearing a lot these days from leaders who want their staff/teams to be independent workers who are highly productive with not a lot of need for assistance from them. They want them to think on their own, but know what they, the leader wants from them. Often this...

There’s a Racist In The White House: The Conflict That Is Bringing Us Together
I refuse to buy into the divisiveness message that is trying to tear us apart. Several of my friends have heard me talk about my theory that the reason Donald Trump is president is for people to wake up, if they are not already, including those of us who have been...

When It’s Still Not Resolved: One Powerful Thing You Can Do
One of my clients has been dealing with a draining conflict at work. She is part of a team and one member of the team creates conflict. When not under pressure or displeased, she is a high producer and a very giving and nice person. When stress or unhappiness with a...

To Err Is Human To Vent is Divine
Is it just me or does the weight of constantly working at saying the right thing in the right way at the right time in the right tone while tempering my emotions get to be the most frustrating thing on the planet? I mean I am committed folks, I truly am. I am...