When It Comes to Conflict – Be Like Water

When It Comes to Conflict – Be Like Water

“Be like water. Adjust to the object and you will find your way around or through it. If nothing within you stays rigid, outward things will disclose themselves. Be like water, my friend.”  – Bruce Lee I am a HUGE Bruce Lee fan, but when I first read this 25...
Confronting Your Cultural Gatekeepers

Confronting Your Cultural Gatekeepers

Now more than ever   I am reflecting on the very raw and vulnerable essay I contributed to the new book, The Difference called How Breaking Culture Freed My Soul. Changing culture is no easy feat. Just mention the word culture and it stirs up images, sounds,...
They Hear What You’re Putting Down

They Hear What You’re Putting Down

Feedback vs. Criticism, lines crossed   It is a cry I have heard far too often over the last couple of years. “It is difficult to manage millennials, they hear feedback as criticism and are always taking everything personally.” What’s interesting about this to me...
The Difference

The Difference

The devastating time in my life that led to Breaking Culture   “In the Spring of 1993, I was diagnosed with infertility. My tubes were damaged and needed to be repaired, this diagnosis was devastating. It was unexpected, unfair, and unimaginable, and a few more...
No Is a Complete Sentence

No Is a Complete Sentence

But how do you get yourself to say it?   I just can’t seem to say no. I want to, but then I… fill in the blank. I hear this so often from clients, friends, and family members. Saying yes to all kinds of things that you don’t want to is a dangerous habit… Yes,...
How To Have Healing Conversations

How To Have Healing Conversations

Are We Still Arguing About This??   Lord knows this was the familiar refrain at my family get-togethers for decades! That’s right, decades. “You two are still arguing about this?” By the time we reach our thirties and beyond, we’ve engaged in lots of conflicts,...