Back Again: My 21 Ways To Make A Difference In The World When It Comes To Conflict.
I have had the pleasure of people watching in several states over these past few months. Believe me, I have seen the good, the bad and the ugly when it comes to conflict. Folks are generally more reckless on the road, we are impatient and short tempered and also kind. Yes, I see the mix. I witnessed people helping strangers with directions, luggage, issuing encouragement and hope. So, of course, I got excited and decided I wanted to bring back my 21 small ways to make a difference this week.
I challenge each of us to do at least 4 things this week.
So, here we go again:
- Encourage somebody today, preferably someone who is not expecting it.
- Catch yourself judging someone in your head and stop.
- Send a motivational text or email to someone who is struggling.
- Call someone you haven’t spoken to in a long time.
- Stop yourself from interrupting your child more than once when you are listening to them.
- Catch yourself being critical of someone and shift to find something positive.
- Pick one thing that you do that you know causes conflict and set a goal to stop doing it by the end of 2019.
- Say good morning every day to your family, neighbors, community members, co-workers, people who annoy you.
- Don’t take it personally if people don’t say good morning back.
- Breathe and pause before you say what you are really thinking and then phrase it differently.
- Listen longer and consider someone else’s perspective.
- Resist the urge to nag, nitpick or have the last word.
- Choose to stop trying to change the mind of someone who disagrees with you.
- Encourage yourself, your happiness changes those around you.
- Let one thing go that you have been holding against someone.
- Stop wishing for them to change. Your thoughts affect how you act toward them and just let them be.
- Catch yourself doing exactly what you said you wouldn’t do and own it.
- Laugh at yourself and say, ‘I can’t believe I said that, okay time to get help with that.’
- Teach your children how to apologize by apologizing to them more often.
- Remind yourself to stay in the present moment rather than project all the things that could go wrong in the future.
- Catch yourself making assumptions about what someone else is thinking or why they did what they did and then stop.
If we all do even one of these consistently from now on, we can create a shift in the way we do conflict that will ultimately affect our worlds and then the world.